My Mind’s Eye

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , on October 1, 2008 by thomaslunt

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So… after much prodding from several sources I finally started a blog! I have little idea what I am doing and I hate to read intructions so here it goes……

I have always been interested in the art of photography. My father was in the Air Force most of my young life and I remember traveling throughout Europe in a bright orange Volkswagen bus in 1976 with my family. We didn’t really have the money to stay in hotels so we camped our way through Germany, France, Italy, etc. Through every trip my father, a History major and teacher, never put down his camera. I remember every camera he had from the tiny Rollei, his Zeiss and most recently his Canon AE-1. We have a treasure trove of slides from those days. I was always more interested in the emotion that a photograph evoked. The photos my father took while we visited Dachau concentration camp in Germany still touch me 30 years later. I guess that is why photography is so important to me. I am humbled by the responsibility to capture time. Whether it is a part of history or a bride’s big day. I will never stop loving the art. My desire to capture emotion is far greater than my desire to take a picture.  I hope you enjoy my little corner of the web.

Why I support Gay marriage and why you should too. Confessions of a straight man.

Posted in Uncategorized on March 19, 2014 by thomaslunt

This is not a political post. It is a personal one.
I was thinking about it this morning as I was remembering shooting my first Same-Sex Wedding, 3 years ago today. Why do I support Gay Marriage? Why has this issue become so important to me? I’m straight. Why should I even care?
It’s time to be brutally honest. I haven’t always been comfortable with the subject of Gay Marriage. Hell, If I am REALLY honest, I haven’t always been ok with homosexuality. I grew up in the 70s and 80s. Raised by conservative parents during the Reagan era. I lived during a time when we gave no thought to the feelings of gay people. The main reason was I didn’t know a single gay person, or at least I didn’t know I did. I didn’t think about gay issues or what the average gay person had to deal with. That, my friends, was the problem. People were too afraid to be who they were. It was largely unaccepted by society and I never had to think about it. I played a game at recess called “Smear the queer” in the 4th grade. I never even considered the meaning behind the name. We picked a kid, called him “the queer” and everyone tried to tackle him. To me, the game was just a form of “Tag”. I used words like “Fag” to describe a classmate that wasn’t tough. Or said things like “That’s gay!” to describe things that were stupid. Not once thinking about what it meant. I didn’t have a bad opinion of gay people. I didn’t have ANY opinion of gay people. I didn’t know any gay people. At least I didn’t know I did….
I went to a high school with 3,000 other kids. I wasn’t aware of a single openly gay student. I’m not saying there weren’t any. I just wasn’t aware of any. The issue wasn’t an issue at all. I was content living my ignorant, insensitive, straight life. As I got older I began to think for myself. I began to think about the issue that had never been an issue to me before. It was in the news more and more. People that I idolized came out. Freddie Mercury. Rob Halford. Ellen. Even friends from high school came out. It forced me to think. As I was forced to think, I became sad. People I loved had been keeping their lives a secret, endured pain and shame for simply being who they were. For being who they were born to be. It was then I realized that, although I had never treated anyone badly or hated anyone because they were gay, I was complicit in shaming them. I was responsible for hurting them. I owe it to them to be a voice, just one voice, but a voice in support of human dignity. Human rights. I didn’t have to change the way I was thinking, I simply had to START thinking.
When the Gay Marriage “movement” became a widespread issue in the news I asked myself a question, an honest question. Am I ok with it? I considered both sides of the argument and came to the only conclusion I could. Why the hell wouldn’t I be?? Who am I to decide people shouldn’t have the right to marry? Let’s look at the reasons often given against gay marriage:
“It goes against tradition.” or “It goes against the law.” So did the abolition of slavery and allowing women to vote or interracial marriages. Some of these were entered into by prominent religious leaders and historical royalty. Regardless, a tradition of inequality is not a justification for continuing to deny equality. Unjust or outdated traditions or laws need to be removed.
“My religion is against it.” We should all have the freedoms of religion and association and in places like the US, we have separation of church and state, so this can’t be a justification for denying marriage equality or other relationships rights. I am not going to use this page to attack my religious friends. I am simply saying the argument is a personal argument of your faith that has no place in the law.
“It’s not natural.” Actually, yes, it is. Many people have been embarrassed by making this argument, because it is so easy to refute. Homosexuality has been naturally occurring since the dawn of time. But invariably, the person saying that a relationship should not be allowed because they think it is unnatural constantly enjoys things that aren’t natural, from their smart phones to their toiletries to their food to their clothing to their transportation to their housing… on and on it goes. “Hey! You can’t ride a bicycle! It’s not natural!” See how ridiculous that is?
“This will hurt children.” This is usually said by people who themselves hurt children by denying rights to the parents of those children and telling the children that their parents are wrong for loving each other, perpetuating a stigma about the children and their families. Don’t want children of these relationships to be hurt? Then stop hurting their families

There is no evidence of this and numerous studies show that the only harm is from prejudice and a lack of marriage equality.
But the most honest argument is one most straight people are unlikely to admit to…
“It is disgusting.” Also known as the “ick” or “eww” factor, this explains why the person using the argument would not want to enter into the type of relationship or marriage or have the kind sex they want banned, but their own personal disgust is not a justification for preventing other people from doing something those other people want to do. Don’t want to have same-sex marriage? Don’t have one. Some people are disgusted by the idea of heterosexual sex, or their parents having sex, but obviously this is not a justification to ban those things. I find prejudice and bigotry, a lack of marriage equality, disgusting. Meanwhile, the people in these relationships aren’t disgusted. How they love each other should be up to them.
So after considering all of these arguments and many more, I concluded none of them were why I support gay marriage. I am not saying they have no influence on my thinking but I support it because I have witnessed it. I have felt the love between them. It’s palpable. It’s real. And as the popular slogan states…..Love is Love. And I, for one, think this world needs more love. I am committed to teaching my children tolerance, acceptance, and love so they never play a game like “Smear the queer” or call people names without realizing the meaning behind them. I want them to be better than me in every way, but most of all I want them to grow up loving people for who they are.
Please help me to erase hate. Support equality.

Amy & John

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , on October 19, 2010 by thomaslunt

As with many of my wedding couples I have really bonded with Amy & John. They are AWESOME! I am proud to call them friends. I was honored to capture an image of Amy at the site of her father’s grave at her request. It was very moving. Take a look at John’s wedding band. It is BY FAR the coolest ring I have EVER seen! He is an Iron Worker so the steel cable in the ring has significance. What a GREAT day! A HUGE thank you to my friend Jim Hopkins (www.jbhop.com) for shooting with me!

Min & Jon

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , on September 29, 2010 by thomaslunt

Min & Jon had a GREAT day last Friday! The weather was 91 degrees! They were married in the BEAUTIFUL Nassau Vineyards in Lewes, DE. We had an amazing time! I got to work with my friend Jim Hopkins www.jbhop.com again. Thanks Jim!!
Min, You are a STUNNING bride!!

Sean & Kacy

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , on August 22, 2010 by thomaslunt

Sean & Kacy know how to put on a PARTY! When we got together in March for the engagement pics i knew it was going to be fun but i had NO IDEA it was going to be this much fun! The reception was at the Curtis Center on 6th and Walnut. The staff there was FABULOUS! I cannot rave enough about this venue.  I had the pleasure of shooting with my good friends Jim Hopkins (www.jbhop.com) and Andy Hastings  (www.andyhastings.com) Thanks a bunch guys!  Sean & Kacy selected “The Exceptions” to get the party going and they DID! The band was fantastic and made the whole night a non stop party. What a great night!

Rachele & Brian

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , , on July 13, 2010 by thomaslunt

Some days you wake up and things look pretty bad….I drove 2 hours to Baywood in lower Delaware in a POURING rainstorm. I get there to find Rachele not bothered at all by the weather and happy just because she is marrying Brian. As the photographer I admit I was a bit worried about the monsoon going on outside but I knew we would make it work regardless…..4:00pm arrives and right on cue the skies lit up and the rain stopped! Rachele said “Let’s do some PHOTOS!” The staff at Baywood was incredible and everything went off without a hitch! That place looks like Longwood Gardens! Its gorgeous! I HIGHLY recommend  www.baywoodgreens.com Lauren and Natalia were SOOO helpful!  The weather stayed beautiful for the ceremony and the photos. I am grateful to Rachele and Brian for entrusting me to capture their big day! Thanks guys!! And a big THANK YOU to my good friend and 2nd Shooter Jim Hopkins www.jbhop.com! Great job Jim!

Lisa & Frank

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , on June 26, 2010 by thomaslunt

Now THIS was a FUN wedding! Lisa & Frank got married in downtown AC and the reception was at the House of Blues in the Showboat Casino. We had a GREAT time shooting this one!

Jennifer

Posted in Uncategorized with tags on May 21, 2010 by thomaslunt

Jenn and I were driving around Charlotte looking for a place to shoot with no luck until we passed a developement with a field and this horse fence in front of it. It was perfect! She was getting cold and it was starting to rain but she was a good sport and looked amazing!

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